Is this ROMANCE or LOVE STORY? You be the judge…

Read 2 Review invited me over and gave me the reins to their blog.  With Valentine’s Day not that far away, I decided to weigh in on Romance versus Love Stories…  Are they the same or different?

You weigh in….   HERE!

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9 responses to “Is this ROMANCE or LOVE STORY? You be the judge…

  1. Great article, Jean. I always believed the main difference between a love story and a romance was the ending. In a love story, you may not have a happy ending. In “Romeo and Juliet,” both lovers died and in the classic “Love Story”, which was made into a movie in the early 70s, the female protagonist died at the end. “Cold Mountain” was essentially a love story too and Inman dies in the end. In a romance you are supposed to be guaranteed a happy ending, which is my favorite thing about romances!

  2. That was a thought provoking post. I think you can have romance without love and love without romance, but ideally you should have both, as I think romance leads to love. I agree with Diane about the difference between a love story and a romance novel is the HEA.

    • Hi Ally.
      This would be a great discussion over a glass of wine. I’m still hung up on this idea that the definition lies somewhere in the emotion it evokes. Maybe that is why some consider a love story as one without a HEA. I wonder if there is a love story with an HEA.
      Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your ideas.

      Jean

  3. My husband just weighed in… I’m laughing as I type this, as he is such a black/white thinker.

    Romance is a fling.
    Love story is HEA.
    If its not a happy ending, he doesn’t want to hear about it.

    LOL. Can you tell we don’t watch a lot of chick flicks?
    Jean

  4. Hi Jean!
    Most excellent post! Really made me think!

    In my opinion, romance is in everything, or maybe I have deep seated romance issues, lol, I’ve always been a bit of a romantic. As a very young girl, I waited for my prince to carry me away. White horse and all. Romance involves all five senses I guess is the best way to describe it. Romance can lead to love, but it doesn’t have to, and sometimes doesn’t. A romantic gesture may be leaving a rosebud on a pillow, a note on a windshield, you can be reminded of it with a scent on a piece of clothing. You’re romanced with witty banter and might even clutch hands under the table, a teasing touch. I’d like to say all romance leads to a HEA. In my opinion, the happily ever after only happens after love is found. And Diane is right, in those classic love stories, one or both of the individuals died, but not until after love was realized. Not until it was the captured and shared, embedded in their souls forever. There was a happily ever after, even if it was for just a brief moment because love was shared. And this is how I tell good romance from a great love story. This is why I loved Asar and Lilly’s story in Soul Reborn, this is why I loved Kisten and Rachel Morgan’s story from Kim Harrison’s The Hollows series (I still get teary), and this is why I loved Romeo and Juliet. Great love stories include the good and the bad, and somehow survive, even in the case of the misguided sweet love story of Romeo and Juliet.

    Dottie 🙂

    • Hi Dottie.

      Wow, I loved what you said… “And Diane is right, in those classic love stories, one or both of the individuals died, but not until after love was realized. Not until it was the captured and shared, embedded in their souls forever. There was a happily ever after, even if it was for just a brief moment because love was shared.”

      I think death in love stories, provides us the finality, and the “measurable” emotional loss. It helps us define the power of the love story.

      I love this discussion. Everyone has provided such great insight on this topic. Thank you for sharing.

      Jean

  5. Great post, Jean! I like your definitions of romance vs. love. Dottie described perfectly how I see romance. It’s almost like the infatuation stage. Sometimes it blossoms into love, which is much deeper, a joining of the souls, and sometimes it’s just a fling. I do like happy endings, but I admit I’m a sucker for a tragic love story. I adore books that can make me cry. Wuthering Heights is one of my favorites.

  6. I think the definition that Dottie Taylor (above) stated is spot on. Romance invokes more of a sensual element, involving every sensation that can be had in the human body, whereas love is something deeper.

    Love is the pure element. It’s what makes a man kiss the sweaty brow of his distressed wife during childbirth. A woman sitting next to her ailing spouse in the hospital. Parents beaming with pride as their child accomplishes a great feat. Love is putting another before yourself. It is having charity to those closest to you.

    A perfect example is my husband going out and purchasing a bathroom rug. He did this not because he wanted it or thought it would look good in the bathroom, but he knew that my feet were cold in the morning on the tile. He did it for me.

    Thank you for this great post and the thought provoking romance and love conversation.

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